20 March 2007

Focusing and Fatigue

In November 2006, we found out my dad has lung cancer. We got through Christmas and then we hit the New Year with doctor visits and many kinds of scans.

On January 16th dad went into seizures. That day we found out he has a brain tumor and a spot on his liver. He spent a few days in the hospital. Then he started radiation for the brain tumor. He lost all his hair.

In the mean time, my mom started falling. After a hospital stay and many tests it was determined that she has a blocked carotid artery.

Then dad started chemo. They are both easily confused and not allowed to drive. I'm the scheduler. Thank God I have lots of help.

I have Fibromyalgia. It is a connective tissue disease, characterized by muscle and joint pain and chronic fatigue.

So, for the past week or so I've slept more than I've been awake. I can't focus on any one thing for any length of time. It is becoming quite annoying.

If anyone has any suggestions, I would like to hear them.


Sandra Schwab said...

I'm afraid I can't offer any advice or suggestions, but would like to give you a big hug. ((((((Deborah)))))))

Michelle Styles said...

It is called STRESS.

You are going through a lot. Make sure you eat properly and take regular exercise. Long walks often help.

I echo the hugs.

You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers

Morag McKendrick Pippin said...

Major sympathies, Deborah.

Bonnie Vanak said...

Aw Deborah, big hugs on your dad's cancer and your mom's health problems. You're under a lot of stress right now. How can you focus on one thing?

I find when I'm hit from all sides with stress that it helps to take things in small chunks of time. For example, when my mom was dying of colon cancer (diagnosed too late to do anything) I was newly married, working FT, and driving 2 hours every weekend to nurse her. I'd use those two hours to run through everything in my mind that I was feeling... and the quiet time alone on the road helped.

I'd make lists of everything, and focus on one thing at a time, organizing everything into priorities. I'd read as a stress reliever. I also used this little motto that's helped me through other difficult times: One Day At A Time. When I couldn't manage to see beyond one day, I'd narrow it down to one hour, even five minutes. I'd say, "I'm just going to focus on getting through the next five minutes and then I'll be okay." It helped.

Hang in there.. I'm thinking of you.